Comments on: Thoughts for Thursday | Toddler Tantrums

By: Mike & Jessica

Mike & Jessica — Sun, 12 Jul 2015 01:55:38 +0000

Brooks is the same way. The only advice I can give is to be consistent and patient. Let him get his tantrum out and then try to talk to him about his feelings. Brooks can get himself so worked up over something so trivial that he will make himself gag and vomit. I just try to get him to breathe and calm down before we talk. I have no idea if he truly understands what I am saying to him but he does get over it.

By: Jessi @ Jessi's Design

Jessi @ Jessi's Design — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 18:25:14 +0000

Although I don't have a toddler yet, I've heard great things about that book! Good luck girl and hopefully his stubborn phase will pass (but he sure is presh!! hehe) Happy weekend! xoxo

By: tori wilkinson

tori wilkinson — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 15:49:06 +0000

I feel like I could have written this post too lately. My 20 month old has been a complete nightmare one minute and the most adorable snuggle-ready babe the next. She is a total Jekyll and Hyde. On Wednesday it took me 34 minutes (I wish I was exaggerating) to get her into her car seat. When I finally did, I sat in the seat next to her about to cry and she looked up at me and said "kiss mama". Hopefully we both get past this soon! I am glad I can comb through the comments and grab some ideas in the mean time!

Tori
http://www.becomingthewilkinsons.com

By: twopeasinablog

twopeasinablog — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 05:47:22 +0000

The joys of having a toddler! Our youngest (we have 3 kids) just turned 3 so I completely understand what you mean. I wish I could say there is a magical answer but each child is so different. Having two older siblings helps tremendously in our case because many times she follows their lead. Time flies and they will be on to the next stage before you blink!
Good Luck!
Katey
http://www.twopeasinablog.com

By: Amanda K.

Amanda K. — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 22:37:56 +0000

first, i want to agree — you will be SO GLAD you did monthly updates. i did them for my first two and i reference them all the time. my #3 is 7 weeks old and it is CRAZY how much i forget!

second, i want you to know that it does get better. when my son was about your son's age my husband and i were desperate. we had no idea how or when to discipline, our son was acting out ALL THE TIME (it seemed) and we honestly thought we'd ruined him. (in the midst of it, i wrote this: http://www.thekriegers.org/2013/09/wait-until-your-father-gets-home/) now he's almost 4, and he definitely still has tantrums and needs discipline, etc., but it's just so much easier with an older child. and he's not QUITE so impulsive.

i really treasured the advice my doctor gave me which was:
1) the most important thing is consistency
2) in the midst of a tantrum, someone needs to be the adult and it's going to have to be you (ie, don't throw your own tantrum!)
3) you're probably doing much better than you think you are, so cut yourself some slack.

stay strong, mama. you aren't alone, and everything is a phase 🙂

By: Evelina

Evelina — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 20:30:06 +0000

Just remember the cliche "this too shall pass" — it will!!

By: Chelsea

Chelsea — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 19:23:31 +0000

I can't offer any advice except to say misery loves company since we are right there with ya! Jack is super happy one minute and on the floor throwing a tantrum the next. Great eater a few weeks ago and now I'm happy if he eats a few bites of ANYTHING, nutritious or not, at dinner. It's so hard not to just give in sometimes (like Brody, Jack does the bath stalling tactics and is constantly asking me for juice or other things like sweets that we limit), but like someone else already said you so aren't alone! Consistency seems to be the key with us and keeping him on as close to his usual schedule as possible helps too. I try to redirect as much as I can rather than focusing on the issue of the moment. But oh those afternoon/early evening hours can really get to you…especially being pregnant!

By: Caroline

Caroline — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 17:58:46 +0000

Oh I remember this age! I have a very strong willed boy. We had to do a lot of redirecting. If he started acting out I would say no we don't do that and try to distract with something else. It's such a hard age because they don't understand the why behind the no. I also noticed a little correlation with hunger and his attitude (he gets hangry like me lol). So I made sure to keep protein filled snacks with us. Some nights I would put him to bed feeling like the worst mother, but we survived and it's only a phase.

By: Pink and Fabulous

Pink and Fabulous — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 17:02:15 +0000

If I had any ideas I would give them to you, but we are still going on strong with the tantrums at 3.5. Boys are VERY strong willed I have learned!

By: Kristen Woolsey

Kristen Woolsey — Thu, 09 Jul 2015 16:53:06 +0000

I thought this was a good article about dealing with tantrums. Especially the part about understanding that a child is taught from the moment he is born that when he cries, mom and dad come running. The whole world revolves around them, but then suddenly it doesn't! No wonder they get frustrated! Plus, he probably senses the changes in your family dynamic with adding another little one! My niece did the same things right before her little brother was born. Just know you are doing your best, and it won't last forever!